Aquilla, aged 99, and his wife Catherine Brant, 95, both
from England, have been married for 72 years. The secret to their marriage is
getting along and their bywords for it is simply: “Yes dear.” Catherine also adds that it is better
not to hate your enemies but to get along with them, adding you would be
surprised at the results.
It is better also to get along too in most other matters than
wanting to be right for no one has any answers that really matter in furthering
argument. Letting it go quickly ends argument, any argument. Compromise is
always best and a compliment meant goes much further while truly listening to
others goes better than both; it is the art of conversation itself.
The ‘yes dear’ factor really does work as long as it is
underlined with respect for other people’s point of view irrespective of
whether you love them or just about tolerate what they have to say. They will
try harder to meet you halfway as well when they are assured you are at least
listening which is the perhaps one of the best compliments of all that most people
do not receive.
By Barry Clifford
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