I knew a man once who had a rather nasty
pit bull who only answered to one man and that was to him. One day while in
company with him and the pit bull a guy we both knew recoiled in front of the
dog as it strained on the leash with fury in his eyes and a bark that heralded
impending doom. Trevor asked the man with barely concealed glee was he afraid
of the dog, suggesting the man was a coward along with being terrified. The
insult found its mark as the man departed in a hurry. I rounded on Trevor and
told him that that was a bad choice of words to use against the man for it
suggested that he was a coward for just being rightly alarmed at this vicious
pit bull. The penny dropped for it was only when I said that did Trevor realize
what he had done and a simple message was passed to a good friend young enough
to be my son. Since then, now ten years ago, I have been aware that passive
aggression is everywhere and often hidden so well that it is barely noticeable.
In Ireland, begrudgery, small
mindedness, and jealousy is normally the adopted parents of passive aggression,
though it is a universal pastime. The people who use passive aggression as a
blood sport are less than you think and to the friends that they don’t have.
One
example is when someone asks are you working while knowing you are not, or
tells you that your house is too small for the beautiful kitchen you just put
in which you slaved to save to do it, or opines with false humility the
destruction of an honest man trying make a decent living. One man told me as I
enjoyed a beautiful clear day that winter would not be long now coming, though
I think in hindsight that he was his own victim of negative thinking. While
admiring a mans success recently of building his business from scratch another
said to me that he got it soft while suggesting he got the land for free and
money to do the essentials as well. There is a remedy of course for passive
aggressive, sort of anyway.
It is always best to hide in open view,
have a good yet busy life, tell the truth and always keep your word. Sooner or
later people will know the difference between that which is a lie and what is
the truth, and the passive aggressions of one’s nature will only be left to
tell it to the trees and they are normally too busy to care anyway.
By Barry Clifford
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